Savoring and Foreplay.

To start with, great sex takes time. It does, and cannot be rushed. Yes, it’s fun to just tear into each other now and then, but if you’ve ever found your way all the way to great sex, that will not remain satisfying. It’ll be fine for circumstances when you just don’t have the time, but will never satisfy either of you the way great sex does.

The single thing that couples do to set up great sex is the way they start it. Great sex requires the stage to be set-up. Absent that, it’s just ravishing, and that is certainly nice, but it is not "great," not once you’ve learned what "great" actually means.

Here is a quote from 1st Chronicles:

     "I thought about this, and realized Helena's words resonated from a place deep in her soul to a place             deep within my own soul.

     A guy starting things by taking the time to slowly savor the essence of my femininity as if it were a fine          wine to be leisurely cherished

     … caring enough for my pleasure to move slowly enough, deep enough, so that I felt his every thrust             through to the center of my soul

     … to finish by staying in me and taking a lovely long time to gently relish the incomparable luxury of               tender intimacy with me.”

These are the three parts to great sex, but it is the beginning of the first part, the savoring, that sets up the second, and that in turn sets up the third and all three are required to be great. Great foreplay is required for great sex and begins with savoring each other. There is no formula for doing this. You can begin dressed, and just lay down with each other, or you can begin with any level of undress.

You look into each other’s eyes, and alternate soft sensual kissing with cheek stroking and things like that, but always back to each other’s eyes. Other erogenous zones are not involved for a while. Later, yes, but not at first. What a gal is doing is breathing in the essence of her guy’s masculinity and just relishing it. At the same time, he’s breathing in the essence of her femininity and relishing it too. For a guy there is nothing much finer than slowing life down and basking in his gal’s femininity. Something transporting happens when a couple does this. One of the most special feelings a woman can experience is a man savoring her. There is little in life that will ever cause her to feel more feminine. This is just as true for men. There is nothing that happens for men that will ever make a man feel more masculine that being relished by his partner. This is how a couple begins great sex … savoring.  There are things that come later that are even better, but this is where they begin.

After a while, you accelerate the touching and gradually incorporate the other erogenous zones. Whatever clothing remains is lost gradually, but eye contact is a really big part of all of this. There is more about all of this in the Aphrodite’s Priestesses series, but for now, you begin by taking the time to build an emotional connection. Now most couples feel that they already have an emotional connection, and I certainly hope this is true, but that is not exactly what I am talking about. What I am referring to here is that instead of just having an emotional connection in the background, you are grooving in on these feelings making them current and feeling their flow.

It is frequently true that Advanced Cunnilingus leads off what comes next, but not necessarily and certainly not always or even most of the time. Eating pussy really well can be the way a couple chooses to end their foreplay and move into the next of the three parts of great sex, but it does not have to be. Regardless of how you end your foreplay, great sex begins with savoring.